Written by Mom Babble’s MK and Jennifer
Can we agree that this is the worst term ever invented? It brings to mind images of women—with babies in one hand and swords in the other—hacking at each other until everything is a bloody mess of disagreement. With words as weapons and comment boards for battle fields, the modern day Mommy Wars have left behind a wake of destruction.
It’s like that Dr. Suess story The Butter Battle Book. Folks are whipping out the big guns because God forbid somebody eat their toast with the butter side down. Well, we say it’s time to stop the madness. Right now. Mothers, fathers, friends…let’s put an end to these so-called Mommy Wars.
We are making an official call for peace.
By signing below, WE, the collective group of parenting women called “Mommies” hereby declare:
The Mommy Wars are over.
Are you listening, media? Do you hear us? Mothers are OVER IT. We want more for ourselves and for our children, and today we are making it official.
Declaration of Peace Between Moms
A TREATY BETWEEN PARENTING FACTIONS SIGNED ON MARCH 12, 2015 TO RESTORE FRIENDLY RELATIONS BETWEEN MOTHERS OF OPPOSING OPINIONS PRIOR TO THE OUTBREAK OF THE “MOMMY WARS”.
I. We agree that Parenthood is exhausting, all-consuming, and crazy-hard, and that Parents benefit more from support than unsolicited advice or criticisms.
II. On topics related to Parenting, we agree that compassion and understanding are required. On specific topics, we agree:
Childbirth. That children have to come out one way or another. If it’s best for the health of child and mother, then the only thing we have to say is this: Congratulations.
Nourishment of children. That the purpose of feeding our children is to fortify them and help them grow, but that the method of feeding one’s child is personal and no one else’s business.
Sleep. That nights are a difficult time in every home and that each child is unique, but that parents should trust their own judgment on such matters.
Education. That the options available for schooling are weighed and judged by each family according to its needs and resources, and the decision does not affect anyone outside the family home.
Discipline. That discipline is complicated and nuanced, and that parents are the authority in the home and make decisions in their children’s best interests.
Anything not listed. That what is best for one child might not be best (or practical, or available) for another, and that judgment should be reserved.
III. We agree that the only appropriate comments are the respectful ones, even those which are in disagreement.
We resolve, by social media shares, likes, and comment “signatures”, that the state of war which exists between Moms of Opposing Opinions is hereby declared at an end.
Now breathe, everyone. Smile and hug it out. Don’t you feel better already?